How To Get Through A Breakup

Dulce Reyes, reporter

Love is a complicated and unfamiliar ground for all but if you are successful in navigating that, there is always a chance that problems may never get resolved between partners. First love, and what comes along with that is heartbreak… This being said, heartbreaks are one of the most difficult emotional traumas to get through.

Luckily, there are multiple ways to make the pain subside.

Even though it’s tempting to latch onto what once was, going without contact is the most effective way to focus on yourself. Obsessing and pretending to be over them only prolongs the healing process.

From then on, realize that you are your own person! It is stress relieving that no compromise will have to be made about personal interests and time. This time is for you to pick up the old hobbies you have neglected whilst in the relationship. Embrace the individuality you possess and filter positive parts into your life.

Of course being single means you have plenty of time living life by yourself, but it does not mean you are entirely alone. Gather your nearest and dearest to upbring and revitalize your new growth. Friends can remind you that the relationship perhaps wasn’t the healthiest and can support you to create better memories.

Now healing is not linear, meaning that there will at times be contradicting emotions to how you have been doing. For example you had just finished a load of assignments and feel stress free yet one random word flashes through your mind and you feel angry.

Allowing yourself to feel every emotion no matter how uncomfortable is part of the process. The more you allow yourself to accept these emotions, the quicker your emotions will equalize and logic can be followed. Meaning acceptance of the situation will become more natural.

Look for lessons to grow even more after the breakup. The more realistic you can be about the relationship and faults, the better off you will be!

“Because it helps you know what you want and helps you avoid mistakes you made in your last relationship,” said Roza Spartalyan, a senior.

Damage from a situation and healing process will be different so what works for one person may not help for others. The length could vary depending on how dedicated the person is to healing. If you are struggling deeply with the same emotions for a prolonged period, make sure to seek the closest therapist or trusted person. You are not alone and will be loved better when you know yourself. It is okay to be alone, you can do this. There is strength in singleness!

Like Kameron Leyba, a senior at Clark said, “Everything will be fine there’s times where you’re not in a relationship and that’s okay. You’re not one half of a person without a significant other, you are yourself.”

Sometimes the best comfort is hearing sad songs that have gone through what you have

Photo credit: Dulce Reyes

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